If you were to choose between 3
doors, each having a different color, and each leading to different paths. What
would you choose? Perhaps, you would find it hard to decide, but that is
normal, because no one could be entirely sure of what path he/she should take.
There are a lot of things in this
world that we are unsure of. That's why we-as we think we could map out our
lives-often make assumptions long before the finale even makes its first
marker. That's just the way we are, it's just how we prepare ourselves for any
kind of incident that we might come upon in life.
So then, the question arises. What
must we do in a situation given many choices to choose from?
Simple, just do what your mind and
your heart tells you to do. In chances of a dichotomous situation, then decide
for yourself what you think is the best path to take. And don't regret your
decision because it may have failed you at first but it will play a much bigger
role in the future.
Why am I saying all of these? Because
i want you to get a good look at life the way it is, before we move on to a
much complicated aspect of it. Which aspect, you ask? Oh, nothing that you
haven't experienced yet. Just Love.
LOVE, what a simple word, isn't it?
Yet, simple as it is, it's practically almost indefinable. Yes, indefinable,
because whatever we say about love is never really sure. It can be true for one
person and utterly false for the other.
So, what about love can we be sure
of? Almost nothing, right? But this, I can say is true, when you've felt it,
it'll change you forever. Although not the whole of you, but surely, a part of
you-no matter how big or how small it is-has changed.
So, when can we say that we're in
love?
There is practically no way to be
absolutely sure, but there are pointers on how to see a glimpse of the
existence of your feelings:
1.
You'll know you have feelings
for him/her, if you find yourself wanting to see him/her every day.
2.
You almost never get bored of
him/her, and even in silence, you are content just being with him/her.
3.
You don't feel the need to
impress him/her, and you feel easy being with him/her because you can be
yourself.
4.
Being away from each other
doesn't lessen your longing for him/her. And when you finally see him/her
again, it was as if he/she was never away in the first place.
5.
No matter how angry you are at
him/her, you always find yourself forgiving him/her, even when you said you
wouldn't.
6.
(If you're together) when you
have quarrels with him/her, though you are so mad, the idea of a break-up still
repulses you.
7.
Whenever you think of the
future ahead of you, (woman) you often see yourself arm-in-arm with your mother
and father, walking together toward the altar, and him waiting as you cross the
distance between the two of you. (man) you see yourself dressed in white, and
smiling triumphantly at her as she and her parents walk up toward the altar so
her parents could give their daughter's hand to you.
8.
You wish that time won't pass
when you're together, hoping to lengthen the moment.
9.
You're willing to suffer in
his/her place. And you're willing to fight for him/her, if the need arises.
10.
A kiss from him/her is enough
to make your day.
11.
You can't imagine your life
without him anymore, and if you do, you find the idea repulsive.
12.
You'd rather spend a day with
him/her than an eternity with someone else.
Those are only some pointers, and they are not
always true for everyone, but one thing I can say, when you fall in love, you
just fall. You don't need to expend much effort for it to happen. The feeling
is magical. But when the magic fades out and you find yourself choosing to love
even when you don't feel like doing it, then you can say that you're
experiencing true love. Because true love can only happen after you've fallen
in and out of love, and continue to love without prompt. That's true love. So,
when you start to feel these, my friend, truly, you are in love.
